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Susan Howson's avatar

Mary is the main character in It’s a Wonderful Life! Tell me I am wrong! She fixes his terrible decisions every time and is the one solving every problem, shielding the children from his rage and petulance, and letting him take the credit. I hate that movie. I think I’ve lost the thread here.

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Tia Levings's avatar

I love how thought provoking this immediately was, like my brain started rolodexing through favorite books and wondering at who their breakfast partners were. I’m in a fairly new relationship with someone who is my intellectual peer. This is the first time I’ve experienced such a match in banter, habit, wonder, and idea-exchange. Our work is undoubtedly shaped by the other now, at least subtly. When I toured Carl Sandberg’s home the guide emphasized that his wife was an accomplished poet on her own, but that she deferred her work to his, becoming an accomplished goatherd and breeder instead. So I suppose the two-geniuses (or two-creatives at least) convo quickly becomes a Venn with patriarchy, egos, misogyny, value, and household equality.

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